In a monogamous world can I really profess to have two great loves? Writing sustains my soul. But coaching, and the principles that underpin it, got me writing in the first place and hold my hand when the going gets tough. Seeing the process work for somebody else is just as exciting, sometimes more so, than experiencing the benefits myself. There is nothing I don’t love about the process. If a person is ready for coaching then the results can be quick, exciting and life-changing.
Life coaching and the principles that underpin it have guided every major choice I’ve made during the last thirteen years. Identifying what’s important to me and understanding how to live life to the full (mindfully, considerately, compassionately) is exciting, challenging and rewarding.
Why Coaching matters
For me, coaching is about finding balance and fulfilment in life. It’s about living congruently with one’s personal values and developing a tool kit to deal with limiting beliefs and the internal critic. It’s about understanding what nourishes, and what drains us. And it’s about having the skills to create well-formed outcomes in the pursuit of our goals and dreams.
As a coach, my job is to facilitate all of the above, supporting you to make your own decisions about what it is you care about, and what it is you want to spend your life doing.
As your coach I believe in you – and for good reason! We all have the potential to live rewarding, fulfilling lives. I understand how crippling self-doubt can hold us back. Niggling, low-level doubt can be just as debilitating. I know what it feels like – we all have doubts and fears and times in life when we just don’t know how to move forward. But I also know, and have witnessed hundreds of times, that through the process of working with a skilled, compassionate coach, every one of us can move beyond paralysis and procrastination. All of us, with the right support, can find clarity and take action towards a personally fulfilling life.
“Jo helped me enormously through a period of huge self-doubt. With her compassion and encouragement, and practical suggestions for evaluating where I wanted to be in terms of career and life purpose, I was better able to embrace a totally new direction for myself and my work.” – Rachel Skinner-O’Neill
Is life coaching for you?
There can be so much pressure from well-intentioned family members, friends and wider society to find a partner, start a family, pursue a lucrative or ‘secure’ career and stick with that career even if it makes us unhappy.
But one size does not fit all. Some people want to make art, not money. Other people want six different careers one after another. Not everyone wants to have children or to settle down into a long-term relationship. Many of us yearn for more creativity – even if we don’t call it that. We might feel that we need or want more fun, space, play, more time to reflect or time with those we love.
Suffering despondency and continual low mood is often a sign that we’re just not happy with the choices we’ve made.
Sometimes we don’t know what we want. We might flit from one thing to another, never quite finding the happiness we’re searching for, feeling lost- craving something, without being able to put our finger on quite what that thing is.
We might know exactly what we want – a change in career, or to set up a business or to move abroad – but lack the confidence or the planning skills to make it happen.
Life coaching is ideal in any of these situations, because it helps us get clear about what we want, understand why we want it (what motivates us) and helps us develop the confidence to act.
What can you expect from life coaching?
Life coaching is action based and goal orientated. In other words, life coaching will get you doing things differently. Coaching will also help you explore your beliefs, identifying those which hold you back and those which serve you well. It will support you to create a life that’s meaningful for you personally.
Life coaching focuses on the present and the future, with some limited exploration of the past.
6 or 8 sessions is ideal to begin with. Each session usually lasts an hour, although in some circumstances, with prior agreement, we may choose to have a longer session. First sessions are typically 1.5 hours.
We can meet weekly, or space sessions further apart if you would benefit from longer periods of time to reflect between sessions. Exactly how long we meet for and how frequently will depend on you personally, and on the issue or problem you are wanting to explore.
Coaching works well face-to-face, by Skype or over the telephone if you prefer. If we are in the same locality then meeting at least once in person is helpful – even if we then go on to coach online / over the telephone. I work from my home office in the Peak District, and also from Sheffield CBT Knowle House, in Sheffield.
Do you want to make changes to your life, but don’t know where to start?
Would you like to be more creative, but never quite know how to make that step?
Are you feeling bored, uninspired and lacking motivation?
Have you plans for the future but can’t seem to make them happen?
Do you feel lost / frustrated with your life?
Are you going round in circles, encountering the same problems time and time again?
Have you a goal in life that you haven’t made happen yet?
Does life feel like a relentless slog?
Life coaching can help in any of these situations.
What can you expect from me?
If you choose to start coaching with me, you can expect support, camaraderie and a listening ear. As your coach I am someone with whom you can share your fears, anxieties and frustrations. My role is to offer a compassionate and confidential space for you to be wholly yourself. I will not judge, because all of us experience personal struggle (even those people who look like they don’t!).
I am here to reassure you that life is sometimes messy, perfection is not possible and there is no such thing as failure.
You can expect to find congruence from working with me. You know when you have congruence in life because it all feels like it’s working. This isn’t about perfection or never encountering problems or stresses. It’s about that sense of being fully alive – when all aspects of your life have meaning, and they feel like they fit together and you wake up in the mornings ready for the day.
You can expect clarity. Coaching with me is an opportunity to step out of your busy life and to look at it from the sidelines. It’s an opportunity to get really clear about the stuff that’s important to you and the stuff that isn’t. I will facilitate a process that allows you to really understand how you work – what behaviours and beliefs serve you well, which hold you back, why you do certain things and don’t do other things.
You can expect me to push you a little, maybe a lot, hopefully just enough. Coaching is certainly about getting out of our comfort zones. My role is to encourage you to feel safe taking new risks and trying new things.
Get in touch…
If you’re interested in coaching then I’d love to hear from you. I’m very happy to answer any questions you might have, with no pressure from me to book sessions. For coaching to be effective, it’s so important that it’s the right thing for you. Feel free to query any aspect of the coaching process or my way of working – I’ll answer any questions you have.
Telephone: 07824 331691
If you’d prefer to chat by email initially, then feel free to get in touch using the form below. I usually respond the same day.